love and the imperfect

>> Wednesday, February 3, 2010

isn't it wonderful to know that we don't have to be perfect - or even very lovely - to be loved?

it's funny how we all strive for some sort of perfection, it's almost as if we have to. placed within us from the day of our birth; the need to please. in our search for perfection, even in our rebellion we rebel perfectly. piercings, tats, underground music, experimentation, head turning fashions, drugs, we do it all so perfectly.
so intense is our need for perfection, that we seek for it outside of who we are, looking for validation we primp, cut, tuck, paint, extend, enlargen, lie, decieve, inject, colour, hate, love, and die. so intense is our need for pefection that we kill those parts of ourselves we deem imperfect, thus never reaching our full potential in who we were made to be.

love, where is your perfection?

i stutter. sometimes quite severely, depending on my surroundings. and i hate it. it has embarassed me, crippled me and caused me to overcompensate. yet i've found that some men in my life have found it very cute. and when my own family would laugh at me, they didn't. ever. they allowed me to be imperfect when i thought i had to carefully speak so i would not embarass myself and make them uncomfortable.

so intense is our need for love, we kill those parts of ourselves we deem imperfect, all the while forgetting that perfect love strives in the midst of imperfection, and once tested comes out as true. and that is why loving someone and ourselves is sometimes soo hard, it's not something we know... really.....it takes many of us years, some entire lifetimes to come to the realization that we are who we are, and we are that way for a reason. but when we understand that we are made imperfect, and once we truly accept that fact, offering and recieving true love will be that much easier. that less painful, and that much more rewarding, but true love starts with self love, and self love starts with the permission to live. love yourself for exactly who you are, tweak what you feel neccessary but from a place of genuine betterment, and not from a place of confused reality and the need for perfection.

love is a deep pool of water that when experienced correctly, can bring refreshing to ones body, mind and soul. the need for perfection is a shallow pool, that if stayed in too long will cause you to drown and look stupid doing it.

give yourself permission to be the beautifully imperfect being that you are, love yourself unconditionally, and the right one, the right people will not be able to help but love you too.



8 comments:

Dave "Loose Cannon" Wills Wednesday, February 03, 2010  

"Even in our rebellion we rebel perfectly..."

Ah, now I see where that profound tweet I saw on your profile earlier comes from.

Great post as it seeks to answer/address the innate desire we all have for love/acceptance. I think that it's only when we know the True Love, and Him alone, are we better able to love ourselves and those around us more perfectly.

Lamoi Wednesday, February 03, 2010  

i agree with you. one can't love perfectly without knowing who created and exemplifies that very act. God is love, it's his nature, and should be ours too.

Essynce21 Thursday, February 04, 2010  

Imperfections are what makes up beautiful! I loved this one!

LoVe.Peace.Curls. Monday, February 08, 2010  

OMG.... I love this!
"...perfect love strives in the midst of imperfection, and once tested comes out as true."

Truer words were never spoken/written...

Lamoi Tuesday, February 09, 2010  

essynce, i hope we all remember that line, it will make life so much easier.

pretty, thank you for you're encouragement!

SinfulLyo Tuesday, February 09, 2010  

yessssssss! love yourself. celebrate your flaws [lord knows i do]. remember they're what make you, YOU.

brooklyn Wednesday, February 10, 2010  

I totally agree with you ruby...your imperfections are what makes us human keep on writing knowing that your words inspire me to keep on writing as well...

Lamoi Thursday, February 11, 2010  

sinfulLyo, that's it girl! that's what it is :)

brooklyn, thanx so much, your words always encourage me to keep writing, and i'm glad i can encourage you as well.

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